Darimana bisa memulai praktik BDSM? Bagaimana praktik BDSM bisa dilaksanakan secara etis? Masukan apa yang bisa diberikan dari pengalaman pelaksana BDSM lainnya agar tidak terjebak di kesalahan yang sama?

Saya mengerti bahwa BDSM bukanlah konsep yang mudah dipahami. Apalagi di ranah teknis dengan berjuta potensi masalah dilapangan. Yang saya mengerti, BDSM tidak sederhana, pun tidak boleh dianggap sederhana. Serupa keahlian dan seni, BDSM mencakup komunikasi non-verbal yang luas. Aspek BDSM yang terlihat mudah, sesungguhnya dicapai lewat latihan dan komitmen yang panjang terhadap minat spesifik yang dimiliki seseorang. Pelaksanaan BDSM yang terlihat simple sesungguhnya merupakan hasil belajar tiap pelaksana nya, sehingga setiap aktor sudah mengerti peran masing-masing. Sisanya, komunikasi yang terbuka dan jujur. Semua pelaksana harus mengerti bahwa diluar adegan BDSM, semua orang harus dihormati secara setara.

Disini saya hanya bisa berbicara sebatas pengalaman pribadi. Saya beruntung mendapat kesempatan untuk belajar dan mengobservasi pelaksanaan BDSM dari berbagai negara, oleh berbagai demografi orang. Walaupun demikian, tetap banyak insiden dimana saya ada dalam bahaya, baik fisik maupun mental. Inilah alasan saya menjabarkan informasi yang saya ketahui mengenai praktik BDSM disini. Pun karena informasi disini berdasarkan pengalaman pribadi, maka harus diseleksi dan diolah kembali sesuai keadaan pribadi Anda.

Where to start practicing BDSM? How can BDSM practices be carried out ethically? What input can be given from the experience of other BDSM practitioners so that people don’t get caught in the same mistakes?

I understand that BDSM is not an easy concept to understand. Especially in the technical realm, in which there are millions of potential problems in the field. As I understand it, BDSM is not simple, nor should it be considered simple. Like any skill and art, BDSM includes a wide range of non-verbal communication. Aspects of BDSM that seem easy are actually achieved through long training and commitment to a person’s specific interests. The implementation of BDSM, which looks simple, is actually the result of arduous learning of each practitioner, so that each actor understands their respective roles. The rest is the open and honest communication. All performers must understand that outside of the BDSM scene, all people must be respected equally.

Here I can only speak from personal experience. I have been fortunate to have the opportunity to study and observe the implementation of BDSM from various countries, by various demographics of people. Despite this, there were still many incidents where I was in danger, both physically and mentally. This is the reason I describe the information I know about BDSM practices here. Also, because the information here is based on personal experience, it must be selected and reprocessed according to your personal circumstances.